Monday, 13 June 2011

So What?

Ever got to the point where you ask yourself:

What am I doing, why am I doing it, is it working, where am I going etc 

Just when I was beginning to question why I am still 4sighting/persevering with the Getinvolved project a woman came up to me recently at the end of 4N meeting and said, “Thank you. What you said has given me inspiration to carry on & the knowledge that it’s not just me that struggles.”  Thought I’d share the lessons learned so far as feedback like that is a massive part of my “why”. 

Creating quiet still space for a germ of an idea to form. We are so inundated with input (social media/phone/email etc) and the pressure to be instantly available can be overwhelming. How can you know what’s going on inside if you don’t make time to listen? You could easily overlook what might be a brilliant idea.

Once the idea progresses to the point where you are going to (& probably feel compelled to) act, pause to reflect on why it is important to you. Whilst  £ is great, it’s pursuit alone is unlikely to keep you going when it gets really tough. I’ve talked about this before in some earlier articles. As Nietzsche put it, “If man has a big enough why he can cope with almost any how.” Make sure your why is MASSIVE! 

When setting a target aim for the stars. Setting an ambitious goal forces us to think creatively. It’s all too tempting to set a soft target and give ourselves a pat on the back for a job well done. Set a big target & be prepared to “fail” publicly. Put your ego to one side & get on with it. Failure is the other side of the coin from innovation. Think about it. You will be forced to think differently and even if you fall short of the big target you will almost certainly beat the soft/easy option. Going public helps you hold yourself accountable! 

Collaborate. You don’t have to prove you can do it all on your own. Not only is it easier if there are a few of you involved…it’s a lot more fun too. Find people who share your values/your “why” and engage. Everyone involved must have an equal amount to gain/lose from the project’s success/failure.

I’ve read/spoken loads about “letting go” over the years & thought I understood the concept well. The last few months have been an exercise in shifting from “me” to “we”/ “mine” to “ours”. If I’m honest I’m still struggling a bit and there are others involved who are patient teachers. Thank you.

Persevere. Life/business & marathons can be gruelling at times. Stick with it one step at a time. It may not turn out as you expected and the route may be full of twists & turns. If you put all of the above into practice you will get “there”…even if it’s a different “there” from the one you set off for!



Thank YOU lady for saying what you said as it has re focused me on my “why” and answered the “so what”.

Monday, 6 June 2011

Why!

Why do you do what you do? It's really important that you know...people connect with the "why" rather than the "what".Also,it's the "why" that keeps us going through the tough times. As Nietzsche put it,"If man has a big enough why he can cope with almost any how".

Thursday, 26 May 2011

Failure

Most of us dislike failure...especially in public.We aim short so we stay safe.That's an ok option but you( and others) are missing out. Aim big,be ambitious with your targets and go public with them.It forces you to think creatively,collaborate with others and persevere.If you ultimately fall a bit short it's only the ego that suffers.You will have exceeded the short/soft target & been innovative/creative in the process.

Monday, 23 May 2011

Sticking with it!

Many of you will know that I've been involved in marathon running/fundraising through the www.getinvolved.biz project. I decided to focus all my energy & attantion on that...hence my longer than usual absence from this blog! It's been a 6 month committment which I'm glad I've done...never again! The training & running has provided many rich metaphores for life & business etc. I looked like one of those people who simply should not be running at all. I developed a stabbing pain in my hip at about 20 miles. That's when a really good reason why is needed. Crossing the line with my sister is s pretty powerful reason to carry on.I'm now speaking around the country about the parallels between life/marathon etc...I WILL post more regularly!!

Monday, 6 December 2010

Snow & Seth!

Well we are buried up to our armpits ( literally!) again. It gives plenty of time to reflect on what on earth we are doing. I believe this latest gem from Seth Godin's blog is exactly what it's all about for us...The Road Less Travelled.

The world's worst boss


That would be you.

Even if you're not self-employed, your boss is you. You manage your career, your day, your responses. You manage how you sell your services and your education and the way you talk to yourself.

Odds are, you're doing it poorly.

If you had a manager that talked to you the way you talked to you, you'd quit. If you had a boss that wasted as much as your time as you do, they'd fire her. If an organization developed its employees as poorly as you are developing yourself, it would soon go under.

I'm amazed at how often people choose to fail when they go out on their own or when they end up in one of those rare jobs that encourages one to set an agenda and manage themselves. Faced with the freedom to excel, they falter and hesitate and stall and ultimately punt.

We are surprised when someone self-directed arrives on the scene. Someone who figures out a way to work from home and then turns that into a two-year journey, laptop in hand, as they explore the world while doing their job. We are shocked that someone uses evenings and weekends to get a second education or start a useful new side business. And we're envious when we encounter someone who has managed to bootstrap themselves into happiness, as if that's rare or even uncalled for.

There are few good books on being a good manager. Fewer still on managing yourself. It's hard to think of a more essential thing to learn.

Monday, 15 November 2010

Latest article

Well even though I haven't blogged for a few days I have been published online again...& someon'e even put it on twitter!A first!
http://www.4networking.biz/articles/just-4-fun/2815.htm
Really getting into this new social media thing!!!

Wednesday, 3 November 2010

Simon Sinek

A friend of mine recommended this clip & the book that goes with it.

http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/eng/simon_sinek_how_great_leaders_inspire_action.html

I love the way he puts his message across & totally agree with the importance of "why".
As Nietzsche put it, " if man has a big enough why he can cope with almost any how".

A theme picked up by Viktor Frankl which I will continue next time!